How to prepare for divorce?
Haram police, I'm sorry, but well, divorce is halal. It's never a good choice. It's never something you do as something you like. It's never what you planned. It hurts and disrupts lives. But sometimes that's what you need to do. To save those who belong to you, to save your mental health - or even more than that. The first thing we need to prepare ourselves for is to be strong and firm in our decision. Obviously it starts with istikhara. We need to recognise red flags and distinguish naivety from genuine positive expectations. Yes, we wait for the best, but if we have been forsaken multiple times, we need to look into the possibility that a certain behaviour is not the result of outer factors but is among the characteristics of our significant other. It's hard to face these issues and it takes a lot of time and consideration. But once we have taken our decision we need to honour it as it is not a joke, it is a serious issue, based on a commitment t